Are you going through a divorce and about to enter into a custody battle with your ex?
You’re not alone. Between 40% to 50% of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. The dissolution of a marriage is hard enough but when kids are in the picture, the stakes are even higher.
Read on to learn the top 5 tips for approaching and winning a child custody battle.
Try to Settle out of Court
If you don’t want to spend a fortune on lawyers and legal proceedings, settling out of court is the best option you have. This also saves your child from having to endure a longterm battle as hearings can drag out the process significantly.
If you and your ex can both agree to keep this out of court, you can hopefully settle through a mediation process which is less dramatic and less expensive. When you take a case to court, you run the risk of loss which can’t be undone.
You never know how a judge will sway so you’re better of using the mediator to negotiate terms before you end up with a ruling in the favor of your ex.
Hire an Attorney
Whether you settle or take your case to court, you’ll want to hire a professional. Custody cases are complex and the laws in each state vary. You need to hire a lawyer who can help you navigate this path smoothly while looking out for your best interest and the interest of your child.
With a lawyer, you’ll have the confidence and security you need to proceed and get what you want.
Fight for the Right Reasons
During a divorce, emotions are at an all-time high. Although it may be difficult, try to step outside yourself and ask if the reason you’re fighting for custody is really worth it.
You don’t want to fight just to get back at your ex. If you’re fighting for custody it should be because there’s a real reason you want to keep your child from spending more time with their other parent.
Winning may feel good at the moment but it could cause lasting damage to your child and your ongoing relationship with your former spouse could suffer.
Keep a Timeline
You’re going to be asked to recount a lot of what happened during the course of the end of your marriage.
The best way to be sure you don’t forget anything and raise all necessary points to your lawyer is to document everything and keep an ongoing timeline. This way you won’t fall victim to forgetting important issues when it comes time to face your ex or a judge.
Put the Kids First
You want your spouse, both of your lawyers and a potential judge to understand that you’re putting your children’s needs first. Any inkling that this battle is for you and your personal satisfaction will send the wrong signal and you’ll end up losing.
Make it clear that the reason you’re proceeding with this battle is for the sake of your children and that everything you’re asking for is to protect them and keep them safe.
Prepare for Your Child Custody Battle
While this is never a situation you wanted to find yourself in, a child custody battle should be approached with as much information and knowledge as possible.
Educate yourself on the laws in your state and find the right attorney to be by your side.
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