In a very real way, each divorce is just as unique as the people involved. Some marriages end amicably due irreconcilable differences; others end in controversy due to adultery or domestic violence.

No matter how much you despise your ex, it is important that your children’s best interests come first. In certain situations, such as in cases of domestic violence, it is not always healthy for kids to have a close relationship with both parents. However, a 2015 study cited in TIME confirmed that children usually benefit from having both parents in their lives.

As such, divorcees should make a concerted effort to encourage a healthy relationship between their kids and the other parent.

If you are considering divorce and you have questions about child custody, spousal maintenance or other family law matters, contact Behrens Law Firm, LLC. Barbara Behrens is a divorce lawyer in St. Louis who will compassionately represent your interests.

Ms. Behrens will demystify Missouri divorce laws and help you avoid mistakes that would compromise your personal or financial interests. Call 314-499-6999 to arrange a consultation. You can also learn more about child custody laws by visiting the USAttorneys website.

6 Tips for Successful Co-Parenting

Pursuant to Missouri Revised Statutes Chapter 452, if your child custody case goes to trial, the judge will attempt to create a custody arrangement that represents the child’s best interests. When evaluating your case, the judge will consider your willingness to encourage a relationship between your children and their other parent because both parents must be able to “perform their functions as mother and father” for their children.

As such, it is in your best interests to find common ground with your ex and develop a healthy co-parenting routine. Here are a few tips to keep in mind:

1. Collaborate with your ex on all decisions related to the legal and physical welfare of your children;
2. Be respectful and professional. If you resent your ex, approach your child custody agreement as a business partnership, and do not let your emotions affect your statements and actions;
3. Develop a comprehensive parenting plan that accounts for each parent’s work schedule, your children’s school schedules and holiday activities;
4. Be considerate and respectful in your communications with your ex;
5. Never argue with your ex in front of the kids or attempt to turn your children against their other parent; and
6. Be willing to compromise – for example, if your ex wants to spend time with the kids on a holiday and this conflicts with the parenting plan, consider making an exception.

If you are facing a child custody dispute or if you would like to modify your child custody arrangement, contact Behrens Law Firm, LLC. Barbara Behrens graduated top of her class at Stanford University and went on to get her law degree at the prestigious UCLA School of Law. She has been practicing law for more than 30 years. Call 314-499-6999 to schedule a consultation with a divorce lawyer in St. Louis.